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Friday Fact

“Adolescents who have high levels of exposure to television programs that contain sexual content are twice as likely to be involved in a pregnancy over the following three years as their peers who watch few such shows, according to a new RAND Corporation study.”

Source: Adoption Statistics

Friday Fact

Only 2% of unmarried women choose to place their child for adoption.
Only 1% of teen pregnancies result in adoption placements.

Source: Adoption Services Inc.

Friday Fact

Around 80 million pregnancies each year are unintended
and more than one-half result in induced abortion.

Source: Population Reference Bureau, Abortion Facts & Figures, 2011

Friday Fact

35 states currently enforce parental consent or notification laws for minors seeking an abortion:
The Supreme Court ruled that minors must have the alternative of seeking a court order authorizing the procedure.

Source: Guttenmacher Institute

Chinese Study: Previous Abortions Significantly Increase Risk of Breast Cancer

A new study out of China adds to the growing body of evidence linking abortion to an increased risk of breast cancer. The study found a significantly increased risk of breast cancer in women who have had previous induced abortions over those who have not. It was also found that women who had more than three previous abortions were at greatest risk of developing breast cancer.

To read more about this study and to get additional information about the link between abortion and breast cancer go to the Coalition on Abortion/Breast Cancer website.

Happy Mother’s Day to all the expectant mothers who are experiencing all the joys and pains of being pregnant. We thank you for giving life to the miracle you hold inside of you.

Happy Mother’s Day to all the mothers who suffered through the pains of labor and sleepless nights to bring a beautiful child into this world.  We thank you for your strength and caring that makes this world a little bit brighter.

Happy Mother’s Day to all the mothers whose children are grown. We thank you for your unending sacrifice in raising and educating the next generation.

Happy Mother’s Day to the mothers whose children are now only in their hearts. Your strength and courage in the face of suffering is an inspiration to us all.


Friday Fact

Two-thirds of sexually experienced teens wish they had waited longer to have sex. The percentage was higher among younger teens, aged 12-14 (83%), than those aged 15-19 (60%).



In our culture there is a lot of talk about “choice.” But sometimes, it feels like you don’t really have a choice.

Your boyfriend, parent, friend, or someone else in your life may be pressuring you to have an abortion. It’s common to be confused and unsure of how to handle this pressure.

In a national study done by the Elliot Institute, 64% of women who have had an abortion say they were pressured by another person to do so. In 95% of cases, the father of the baby played a central role in the decision to abort.

The side effects for women pressured into aborting their child against their wishes are lifelong. There is an increased risk of suicide and clinical depression as well as symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder.

In some cases intense pressure to abort can turn violent. The #1 killer of pregnant women is homicide. Women have been beaten, tortured and even killed because they refused to have an abortion.

If you find yourself in a situation where you are being threatened or you fear for your safety, leave and then call the police or your local women’s shelter to get immediate help.

If you decide to continue with the pregnancy and need a safe place to stay until after you have your child, check out these wonderful options. They can help you prepare for childbirth and parenting or adoption.

Cherish Center, Milford, Iowa
Cherish House provides a place where young mothers-to-be can get away from the pressures around her. Together with other young women in similar circumstances, the girls learn life skills so that they can learn to live successfully on their own. There is no cost to live at Cherish House.

Ruth Harbor House, Des Moines, Iowa
Ruth Harbor is a home away from home for many young women who become pregnant. Pregnancy presents many challenges, so at Ruth Harbor you’ll find relief from many of life’s pressures while you work through the difficulties presented by pregnancy.
Housing, food, and healthcare are provided at no charge, giving you the support you need to work and save for your future or pursue educational and career opportunities.

Bethlehem House, Omaha, Nebraska
The Bethlehem House provides support to pregnant women to choose life for their unborn child in a residential environment both during and after pregnancy. It educates the woman on child care and personal life skills to assist them to be self sufficient.

New Beginnings, St. Cloud, Minnesota
A home for pregnant women and their babies. Most residents move into New Beginnings when they are pregnant and may stay up for one year after the birth of their child.

Making an Informed Choice

You Have  Choices

You thought you had taken every precaution to avoid getting pregnant, but the pregnancy test is showing positive.  Your boyfriend wants you to get an abortion, your best friend thinks you should keep the baby and you don’t know what to think.

With over 10,000 pregnant women in the United States on any given day, you’re not alone. Unplanned pregnancies are common. What you choose to do now will have a lasting effect on you and your child.

Legally, you have three choices, raise the child yourself, put the child up for adoption or have an abortion. Each have unique consequences that you need to consider before making your choice.

Regardless of what you decide, be sure that your decision is one that you can live with for the rest of your life.

Raising Your Child

There are few words to describe the beauty and joy that a mother receives from watching the child she helped create learn and grow. Nearly half of all children are born to single mothers. Assistance from the friends, family, charities and the government help women who want to keep their babies.

Changes in laws have made it possible for women to raise their child, get a good education and have a successful career. But it’s not without ifficulties.

Pregnancy can have physiological and psychological side effects, including gestational diabetes, preeclampsia, infection and postpartum depression. And once you give birth, you will have a lot of expense and hard work ahead of you. You will be legally responsible for this child for the next eighteen years.

Whether you should raise your child is not something that you have to decide right away. You can change your mind at any time during your pregnancy or up to several months after birth to choose an adoptive home instead. Not every woman in every stage of life can handle the added burden of children.


Placing your baby in a loving home, where he has a chance to succeed in life may be the best gift you can give your child. There are thousands of couples throughout the country who are unable to have children of their own.

The law allows these adoptive parents to help pay the expenses of pregnancy and adoption. And with the advent of open adoptions and relative adoptions, you could remain a part of your child’s life without the work and responsibility involved with raising the child yourself.

But, once your child is adopted, you are no longer that child’s parent and have no say in how the child is raised. In many cases once your child is adopted, you won’t have any contact with them at all.

In most states, you can change your mind anytime during pregnancy, sometimes even years after an adoption is finalized, and choose to raise the child yourself.


Abortion is the only option that is absolutely final. Having an abortion may save you the embarrassment of telling your parents that you’re pregnant and will save you from having to go through pregnancy. But once you have the procedure, whether chemical or surgical, your child will be gone.

In most cases you have only a few weeks to decide if you want an abortion. Many states limit abortions to the first twelve weeks of pregnancy, except in cases of medical necessity.

Abortion can have many of the same side effects as a miscarriage, including depression and suicidal thoughts, as well as infertility and increased chance of miscarriage in future pregnancies. The psychological effects of abortion may not appear until after you give birth.

Get More Information

Whichever option you choose, Mary’s Choice will be there for you. We can provide supplies and resources for raising your child, get you in touch with adoption providers, or find you help after you’ve had an abortion. Additional information on each of these three options is also available on our website, or at our office, where volunteers are waiting to help.