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Making an Informed Choice

You Have  Choices

You thought you had taken every precaution to avoid getting pregnant, but the pregnancy test is showing positive.  Your boyfriend wants you to get an abortion, your best friend thinks you should keep the baby and you don’t know what to think.

With over 10,000 pregnant women in the United States on any given day, you’re not alone. Unplanned pregnancies are common. What you choose to do now will have a lasting effect on you and your child.

Legally, you have three choices, raise the child yourself, put the child up for adoption or have an abortion. Each have unique consequences that you need to consider before making your choice.

Regardless of what you decide, be sure that your decision is one that you can live with for the rest of your life.

Raising Your Child


There are few words to describe the beauty and joy that a mother receives from watching the child she helped create learn and grow. Nearly half of all children are born to single mothers. Assistance from the friends, family, charities and the government help women who want to keep their babies.

Changes in laws have made it possible for women to raise their child, get a good education and have a successful career. But it’s not without ifficulties.

Pregnancy can have physiological and psychological side effects, including gestational diabetes, preeclampsia, infection and postpartum depression. And once you give birth, you will have a lot of expense and hard work ahead of you. You will be legally responsible for this child for the next eighteen years.

Whether you should raise your child is not something that you have to decide right away. You can change your mind at any time during your pregnancy or up to several months after birth to choose an adoptive home instead. Not every woman in every stage of life can handle the added burden of children.

Adoption

Placing your baby in a loving home, where he has a chance to succeed in life may be the best gift you can give your child. There are thousands of couples throughout the country who are unable to have children of their own.

The law allows these adoptive parents to help pay the expenses of pregnancy and adoption. And with the advent of open adoptions and relative adoptions, you could remain a part of your child’s life without the work and responsibility involved with raising the child yourself.

But, once your child is adopted, you are no longer that child’s parent and have no say in how the child is raised. In many cases once your child is adopted, you won’t have any contact with them at all.

In most states, you can change your mind anytime during pregnancy, sometimes even years after an adoption is finalized, and choose to raise the child yourself.

Abortion

Abortion is the only option that is absolutely final. Having an abortion may save you the embarrassment of telling your parents that you’re pregnant and will save you from having to go through pregnancy. But once you have the procedure, whether chemical or surgical, your child will be gone.

In most cases you have only a few weeks to decide if you want an abortion. Many states limit abortions to the first twelve weeks of pregnancy, except in cases of medical necessity.

Abortion can have many of the same side effects as a miscarriage, including depression and suicidal thoughts, as well as infertility and increased chance of miscarriage in future pregnancies. The psychological effects of abortion may not appear until after you give birth.

Get More Information

Whichever option you choose, Mary’s Choice will be there for you. We can provide supplies and resources for raising your child, get you in touch with adoption providers, or find you help after you’ve had an abortion. Additional information on each of these three options is also available on our website, http://www.maryschoice.org or at our office, where volunteers are waiting to help.